Steps to Chic: How To Gain Confidence

We do it for the culture

Welcome back to Nubian Chic! Because we are doing it for the culture, I decided to start a series called, "Steps to Chic" or "Steps To Boujee". And the first lesson, as you already know, is how to gain confidence.

Being that bad thang, that you hope to become, starts from the inside. You can't expect to be a boss if you don't ACT like one! You have to tell yourself, "I'M A QUEEN! I AM A BOSS!" Every single day. And until then, you aren't one. So lets jump right into the steps to chic, "How to gain Confidence".

Growing up, I moved a lot. I lived up and down Baltimore and Prince Georges County, switching schools every school year. But when I lived there I didn't feel ugly, nor did my skin tone stand out, it was until I moved to a relatively small town named Hagerstown.

In a brief summary, Hagerstown was mainly white at the time, although it's rapidly becoming filled with more diversity its still bombarded with white folks. Living here, I did get many racist encounters, so I yearned to be more like the white folks. I felt like I was apart from everyone else, and I just didn't love myself. If you want more on that story, just contact me diamondchicinc@gmail.com. and I will write more about my childhood story times. Maybe even have a Story time Saturday!

Anyways, LONG story short, I learned to love myself and the skin I was in, so I am very certified to give you this advice, since I lived through it myself.

NUMBER ONE: THINK POSITIVE

Thinking positive will get you through so many things. That awful week your having, will just turn brighter. That exam your about to take, won't feel as bad. And going to school every morning will become more possible.

As cliche as it sounds, thinking positive is a MUST. Although it starts out difficult (believe me I know), but there are ways to make it easier.

Step one: Take a 2 week break from social media.

I mean it. Delete it from your phone right now. Go ahead. Do it!

Don't get me wrong, social media has a lot of positives, but sometimes connecting to the world and all its negativity, will only bring you down.

Go outside, and enjoy the world around you. Watch some youtube, read more of my blogs, read. Get your mind off of the world and become more focused on building something. Find your passion and your talent, become an expert, go and hustle. There are lives outside of social media, I promise you will be fine

Step Two: Break off all the toxic-ness

Toxic friends, relationships, energy. ALL OF IT NEEDS TO GO!

I know deleting certain people out of your life is hard, but try distancing yourself from them. Whether its only for a month, distance yourself. Don't pick up that call, take a little longer to text them back, maybe don't go to that party. You will realize how much more positive your life has become. I'm not asking you to become anti social, but try taking yourself out of situations that aren't taking you to greater heights.

Queens know who is for them and who isn't. Queens won't ever let a toxic relationship to sink them. A relationship is suppose to take you from point A to point Z, not the other way around.

And if you need a friend in replacement, TALK TO JESUS. Email ME. Friends aren't usually forever, but God is.

NUMBER 2: MARRY YOURSELF

I personally can't stand when a potential Queen can't be by herself. Its sad. Girl, pick yourself up and carry yourself to that altar. YOU'RE GETTING MARRIED!

At this current moment, I don't have a 'Best Friend' nor a 'Boyfriend'. I'm grinding hard, and I've realized no one is ready to grind with me. Now that doesn't mean my social life sucks, to be honest it's at an all time high. Why? Because I focused on my self, got together with myself, and improved MYSELF!

Step one: Get dressed more often

Look your best, because each day you will be trying to impress your queen (A.K.A YOURSELF). Don't know how to dress that well for less? Or maybe you don't have enough to be looking like beyonce everyday? Don't worry, I got you.

Step two: Buy yourself amazing things

You want those shoes? GET IT. Want to redo your room? DO IT! And if you can't afford it check out my website, because queen, I GOT YOU!

Step Three: Talk about YOURSELF

When I was insecure, I would walk up to the mirror everyday and COMMANDED the things I wanted to see in my life. Thats what you need to do. Tell to yourself who you want to be, as if YOU ARE!

After you took that 2 weeks (or more) without social media, and you're ready to get back on, girl POST YOURSELF! Post yourself looking good, looking bummy, looking like a QUEEN! Because that is what you are.

Talk about yourself in third person. Blessing does it all the time. Laugh with your self. Enjoy your company. And don't let anyone call you cocky for loving yourself.

NUMBER THREE: TAKE RISK AND WALK WITH CONFIDENCE

Fake it till you make it. Smile and lift your head up. Show your teeth. Talk with fluency. Go to the beech looking amazing. Stop trying to hide yourself. Talk to whoever you want with confidence. Never hold back. Go out with you chanel (or a dupe) purse.

In conclusion, you are a queen.

Now this post was more general for everybody, all race and colors. Even men could read this and take something out of it. But if you want to learn how to love your color, look towards my other blogs. I love you queens of all shapes and sizes! Ask me some questions, and lets talk! Send this post to someone who needs the advice. Thank you my lovelies and have a wonderful, positive, selfish, day!